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if you're new in town and you didn't get a chance to meet anyone yet (either because you stay at a hotel, or no one's staying at your hostel) do you go out to a club by yourself?

that to me is just..weird.

BTW - im using this computer at the Ithaca hostel on BCN, and apparently this computer stores the information entered in the boxes, and there's 4 or 5 entries already from this computer...funny stuff

gee rogerio, guess it depends on which club and who you're hoping to meet... (kinda like back home, clubbing rules tend to be universal, but then again, you could change the ROLE you play in the club, take a risk, go out on a limb, nobody you know is gonna remind you of it tomorrow??? so go out alone and try and meet people even if you were never the extrovert before, or just go to sleep, nobody will tell on you either way)

Rogerio,

I'm in Barcelona from the 23rd to the 26th. If you're still going to be around, PM me and we'll go clubbin'!

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Originally posted by Rogerio:
do you go out to a club by yourself?

just the thought of it depresses me.

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Originally posted by Rogerio:
do you go out to a club by yourself?

i wish i had th guts to do it more often, but yeah i have been out clubbing once or twice by myself. its actually not the big deal that everyone seems to think. i love to dance though, so head straight to the dance floor and i relax and feel at home straight away. usually ill make a few friends on the dance floor who comment on how well i dance or something like that and conversation normally goes something like:

"who are you out with tonight?"

"actually, im here by myself because i felt like going out and none of my friends did"

"oh, well i'm ........ and this is ........, if you get sick of dancing why dont you come and join us for a drink?"

"cool"

and just like that you make a group of friends to spend the night with. and its not even always guys, i actually had it happen one night with a group of girls who just wanted to hear all about sydney.

i wouldn't be as confident about doing it in a bar or pub with no dance floor though. although i have seen it done. when i was in NZ a guys came up to my group of friends and said "hi guys, im ........ do you mind if i join you? so your aussies? which part of oz are you from". he ended up telling us heaps about NZ and the best places to go, it was great.

best of luck if your going to give it a try. remember you can always go to the bathroom and never come back. and always get there a bit later than you would with a friend, so that it is quite busy and you dont look totally lost. (people are a lot looser after a few drinks and are more likely to proclaim you their new best friend).

x

PS. in my experience you'll spend less on alcohol on nights like this. (well, speaking as a chick .)

I dont mind going to a bar alone, as long as I have something to read or write and the place is low-key.

I've hit up clubs alone exactly once while travelling but only b/c there was a DJ I REALLY wanted to see giving a performance, I dont think I would go for it alone on just a regular ol night... something would have to tempt me, musically....

At home I used to go out alone all the time, but knowing I would see people I know. Clubs to me are boring w/o friends, unless you just really want to dance, as Miss Nic said, or meet new people, which in a club is rarely, for me.... hehe

Happy hopping~

Miss Nic's suggestion works great... if your a girl.

Maybe its just me, but I can imagine:

A bunch of guys asking a lone girl to hang out
A bunch of girls asking a lone girl to hang out

But I just can't imagine:

A bunch of guys asking another guy to hang out
A bunch of girls asking a lone guy to hang out (unless he looks like Fabio )

I dunno about Fabio, he looks scary.

But anyhow, what's so odd going to a club alone? Just depends on why you wanna go I reckon.

I don't know if you (Mr. Rogerio) are the type of person that can have fun anywhere, but if you are not, please, only go to a club if you really really like the DJ/music they are playing. If you are only going to meet women, you'd do better to go somewhere you are intersted in. Clubs are only a good place to meet people if that's what kind of environment you are into. And don't try to act like someone you are not, the women are pretty quick at picking that up

In conclusion, if you are gonig because you like the music, go and have a great time. If you don't like the music/environment but want to go to meet women, don't waste your time.

Scared about making friends in a club:

2 Solutions:

1) Buy a round for a group of mates. Give them the "hey man, just landed and need to drink off my jet lag - wanna join?" - worked for one Kiwi guy me and some chums met in a club.

OR

2) Free Drugs. Guaranteed to make you lots of friends in a very short space of time. Just dont think they'll remember OR give a shit about you in the morning. (Or so ive heard)

Cant say ive ever been clubbing before but god knows I went out to stacks of bars on my own while on the road. Just gotta be in the right place at the right time. And Barcelona isnt exactly short on partygoers.

Dan

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so go out alone and try and meet people even if you were never the extrovert before

yes. that is what you do. what's the worse that happens? well you go home and pass out.

Based on DanW's past responses would tell me he's being sarcastic here, but it's not detectable to me in the tone of his text. Beyond that, I think those ideas are horrible. Sure to meet leeches, or turn off those who aren't. You won't make any friends by being wealthy, dude, same thing having the "goods". I never respected any of the guys in college that had those, even if I pestered or complimented them at the time when I wanted something.

I'll say this. I decided to go to the local pool one day despite feeling akward, the one at my ap't complex, and bring a blender, a bottle of corona, and lots of limes and coke and other mixers. I stood up on a chair and announced in my boldest trained Toastmaster's voice, "Who wants Margueritas?"

Damn if I didn't meet a lot of people that day, including cops, but that was later.

I may seem totally off topic, but put a genuine smile on your face, be bold, and don't worry about the ones that are resistant or scornful. Chances are, your internet business could not have impressed them even if you were the new chancellor of Europe.

Not easy, but nothing valuable comes easy w/o practice. Did your successful business? No. Nor will your ultimate success with bar friends.

TJ,

Aye - couldnt help being a sarcastic git... im a brummie. Its my sole purpose in life

On a serious note though, making friends is like making money. Put enough time in and your returns are larger. Doesnt matter where, how, why and when really - you just have to be confident innit

Or in my case - a ragin' alcoholic / compulsive partygoer (at the time). Heh, ironically I think number one did actually work on reflection lol

Dan