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Being on the road means leaving often, once you are integrated and feel the need for a new challenge, it means you live behind what you have and set for new horizons.

Those shorter terms in every place, does mean it's difficult to get a steady relationship. But of course, travelling needs don't take away other natural needs... The whole point is to me (and very likely to more travellers) that I am not prepared to give up travelling anyway, while my romantic ideal would be finding that special girl and discovering the globe together. I think it can really make a difference in a relationship: not only you share the passion for long-haul travelling, also the constant change of decors mean you constantly get new experiences to share, you avoid routine in a way. Finding a traveller girl who prefers long haul travelling over a family and kids, is the hard part though, and there's no such thing as a 'travellers only' club where you can meet people with the same dreams in life.

I now have a crush on an Australian girl, there's a big distance in between us, but we share many many dreams and ideals, and she likes travelling as well. So who knows... I am a pessimistic person so probably something will get in between us. But in my dreams, I'd just take off with her of course. We're even fascinated by the same countries...

So how did you all find that person who you share travelling desires and more with?

PS: I am mainly directing this to those who indeed share my ideal of travelling together, rather than setteling down somewhere

PS II: please don't think I am 'advertising' myself here!! I try to live and let happen rather than to actively search...

I think it depends what you want out of your relationship...

I have had a couple of long distance relationships and find them incredibly difficult to maintain...how do you trust that someone is being faithful when they live that far away?

But I think you CAN travel and have a romance at the same time...or even travel and find romance on the road..although this is less likely to last...

I would love to find someone that shares my passion for travelling and then go off around the world with that person...but I think that can test a relationship as well...

Thought I'd update this as well...

I had the luck of meeting a girl now who is also devotely into travelling, having spent a long time in Asia and the M.East and now busy exploring Europe. A pleasure to talk to and a great person. Unfortunately she has a boyfriend who travels with her Bad luck. But it did remind me that it is definitely possible to meet the right person and take off together, although I do know that it will be a long search probably.

The problem is that travellers are spread all over the cities and countries. It's a pity there's no pubs where travellers meet up, as this would make it easy to 'filter' the travellers from the others. Compare it to pubs for minorities, who that way have it easier to get in touch with likeminded people. Shame that there's no places where travellers meet up while on the road...

Have you looked at a site called Couch Surfing...am sure you can meet like minded travelers from your area there.

If there is not a group why don't you create on on Yahoo...or Craigs list or other forums that are available to you. Be the first one to start something am sure there are others who are thiking the same...

Also sometimes you meet that person on the road...then you continue the journey with them...has happened so many times (not to be personally). I know freinds who moved countries and couple of them even got married to the folks they met on their travels.

So its possible..
Madhu

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Originally posted by Gerrit:

The problem is that travellers are spread all over the cities and countries. It's a pity there's no pubs where travellers meet up, as this would make it easy to 'filter' the travellers from the others. Compare it to pubs for minorities, who that way have it easier to get in touch with likeminded people. Shame that there's no places where travellers meet up while on the road...

This isn't necessarily true... if you go to a popular travelers city in countries like Thailand, Czech Republic, Australia, etc., the bars there are often full of travelers, some just on a quick vacation, and others on exteneded times on the road. I've always dreamed of meeting somebody on the road, hitching up together and falling in love while seeing the world. Hasn't happened yet, but this is not a bad place to meet your type of person.

This is why I love forums. You so often think you are the only one thinking a certain way and then lo and behold there are a heap of other people saying the same thing.

I have struggled with this issue myself.

Journeying is my raison de etre and as much as I miss romance and having someone, the urge to keep going is much stronger.

Is it possible to find someone with the same dreams and loves to share the journey. I would really love for that to happen. I think the odds go against me in every way, I am older, so the groups I socialise with on the road tend to be younger, I definitely don't have the resources to look good on the road, its takes a lot of work as you get older :-) ... and the vast majority of people in my age group are settled and the thought of backpacking is scary/mad to say the least.

Yet .. I have had so many wonderful miracles in my life that you know what, its going to happen one day and until then I shall keep enjoying the world and practice patience.

When you are one in million it can take a little longer to find that other on in a million.

I wish you all well on your journey :-)

I've met a few locals and the thought has crossed my mind, but when you know you'll be leaving in a month or so you start to wonder if there's any point...

Never rule it out though (that emoticon has nothing to do with this, I just wanted to see it in a post hah!)