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Okay, quick rant warning.

Has anyone else here run into problems relating to others in regard to changing your life? Lately I've been getting the feeling that i can't relate to anybody about my outlook on life. I feel like there's a lot missing from my life, perhaps following the wrong path, etc. You know, all the Big Questions many might attribute to a quarter-life crisis.
I took my sister to dinner tonight to try and get it off my chest, but the thing is she can't relate. I mean, I love her and all, but she just doesn't see the world the same way i do. She's only a couple of years older than me, but is getting married this summer and already settling down. I'm happy for her, but going to dinner actually kind of frustrated (and kind of depressed) me, because i realized that I don't have anyone left to talk things like this over with. It's not just her; nobody i talk to seems able to relate to this.
Anyway, just curious to hear other's thoughts.

Feeling better now, just had to get that out of my system

the only person living your life, with all the history that has shaped the person you are today, is you. because of that, understanding doesn't come easy. but it does come though. do you know anyone that has gone through what you're going through now? it might help to go back and talk to them.

and hey, if you can't find anyone.. there's a quarter-life crisis thread a little further down in this forum.

I hear ya. The more I try and explain my situation (QLC-esque) to family and friends, the worse it gets. None of them understand, especially my parents and sister, and disappointingly my best friends. They're pretty much content with fast cars and big pay cheques and think travel is pretty much lying on beaches and drinking. And you're right, it's frustrating as hell and it makes me just wanna leave everything here and start afresh. But at the same time, try to view your unique outlook as a positive thing - who cares if no one else gets it? As long as you do, I'm a big believer that the rest will fall into place.

Thanks guys-it's nice to get feedback.

chute-sounds familiar! Too bad there aren't more people who share that mindset (except here )

Anyway, tried to get a positive outlook this week-and feeling a lot better. Realized work is actually going fairly well, i just need a break or at least a change of scenery.
It's a long shot, but I'm hoping to get transferred/find work overseas within the next couple of years (if not, I can still just leave). Till then, at least it's something to work towards.

man i can relate to what your going through completly as im in the same boat but ironicly im only 16!.basicly ive been struggling with the same old things for quite awhile now and it's starting to drive me crazy.

the job i have(school) really doesn't go well with my anti comformist attitude and i can't seem to relate to many people around me except my best friend who is a free thinker like myself.sometimes i grow tired trying to figure a way out of all the bullshit but to tell you the truth to truly free yourself from society's mindset and be happy is to just let people say what they will about you and keep on doing what your doing.in the end no matter how crazy or stupid people see you as for not going along with the "normal" way of thinking just realise that the reason your "different" is because your thinking for yourself instead of letting other people think for you.


by the way i heard a quote once that stated "being crazy is really just being happy" which is true in certain circumstances like when people label you as weird or messed in the head for having a different outlook on life that perhaps is more simplified and if followed through with might just lead to a happier way of living.

*peace be with you all*

I think you'll find this throughout life; just a general feeling of aloneness - not meaning you're lonely, and not that you aren't surrounded by people and have people to hang out with - but rather, that it isn't often that you can *really* connect with people.

I guess I know what you're saying, but I also think there is a small % of people out there, just like you, who you will be able to converse with and really talk about things with, and will be able to relate to. It just might not happen often, but when you find those people, treasure them.

But yeah, in the meantime when you're running into a bunch of people who just 'don't get it,' it'll understandably depress you!!! That definitely happens to me; I think you just have to recognize that most people aren't going to be wired like you are, and just shrug it off, and keep seeking people who WILL understand you.

Well, this is certainly making ME feel better, although I'm starting to think that it's just life, and it gets worse the more you learn and the older you get. Maybe I should visit that other thread...

Might try writing down what your trying to get across... just get it on paper. Get something tangible that YOU can see and agree with. Makes it easier to understand what is stressing you out... what questions you have that may not be apparent.

That way you dont trip over yourself trying to put it together when someone asks you about your life, because anything asked about it will kick off the same sparks in the brain, causing the same cascading effect. If you dont have what you are and who you are figured out, you cant share it with someone else.

Nobody but you can truly understand your situation... those who agree with you share the same symptoms, but are the cause, the root of the symtoms are different. No one see's something the exact same way as someone else, our minds are like a fingerprint. No ones is quite the same, some share more parts than others, some look vaguely familiar, but we are all unique. Unless someone is on the same frequency and brain wave as you are the arent going to "Get it."

Its called being human, if it was not for topics like this what use would there be in sharing "Our" opinion to compare and contrast with others. There are topics like this one that must be sorted out and discussed with in us, meditated over and pondered.

Some folks are more or less okay with who they are, others are good at making it appear that they are. In the end we all question why we are here, what it means to live, what it means to die, and "WHO WE ARE." Some of us are open minded enough to listen to others view points, others have written their own "self" in stone within there minds, just like writing down who we are and what we stand for.

(Way to late at night for this type talk...)

Edited: Took the edge off of it... re-read it from last night, was a little bit to harsh at the start! (I dont sugar coat stuff, but when I'm tired its worse than normal!)