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as i posted months ago, i was to leave in october, but now then i suddenly found myself in a relationship, unexpected, but nothing short of beautiful. yet i still cannot stop the wonder of the wander... if that makes sense. i still feel the need to travel, alone, but eventually together. i dont feel like i have the right to ask her to wait. is it worth passing on one love for the other love, if not to satisfy regret. i suppose there could be regret for either side, or choice that i make. gah!! so confused!! feedback.

dump 'em and travel!!!

That is certainly a tough one. Some would say that you need to take care of yourself first. There are also others that say that people come into your life at certain times for a reason. Personally I feel that you have the "right" to ask her to wait. And she has the "right" to say yes or no. I also feel that if people are meant to be together then they will be. Maybe it's not the right time. Maybe she will agree to wait, but you'll never know unless you ask. I feel like this is one of those decisions being discussed a while ago here in the forums. You can analyze both sides of the argument to death, but perhaps going with what your heart is telling you is the way. Best of luck.

Yeah... Take the money and run!

Smuggs

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Originally posted by beyourmuse:
as i posted months ago, i was to leave in october, but now then i suddenly found myself in a relationship, unexpected, but nothing short of beautiful. yet i still cannot stop the wonder of the wander... if that makes sense. i still feel the need to travel, alone, but eventually together. i dont feel like i have the right to ask her to wait. is it worth passing on one love for the other love, if not to satisfy regret. i suppose there could be regret for either side, or choice that i make. gah!! so confused!! feedback.

hmmm...the way i see it, life is a great adventure. And to love someone very deeply is the ultimate adventure in itself. If you don't feel like loving your woman is not the greatest adventure above all your adventure, i say you question whether she is truly your love? If she is not, then you sacrifice the love you know for a greater one..in this case it would be to travel.

and sure you have a right to ask her to wait, and let her decide if she wants to wait or not.

dave

I would say that whatever decision you make will have positive results as long as you don't act out of fear.

I would personally have a talk with her and tell her what you want to do and mention to her that you need to travel solo to find yourself before you can settle down into a relationship.I think if you choose to do so you both could come to a conclusion and hopefully both feel satisfied about the decision.

Who knows maybe she has things she would like to pursue before getting heavy into a relationship aswell?

what a difficult situation, huh?

i agree with soultime...
also, whatever you do, be honest with her and with yourself. i've been on one end of this situation and all i can say is to be truthful and really talk through it. good luck!

There are a hundred of songs, poems and stories about this exact problem.

The general consensus seems to be that wanderlust is incurable, and loving a person who has it always tragic, and that a wanderer will never be happy in one place.

I'm not really a vagabond myself though, so I can't say. I love travel, but I also love having my home and a stable life I can rely on.

You may want to check out the song 'A Long as I Can See The Light' though, for a sappy, sentimental expression of your dilemma.

Do you love her?

E.

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Originally posted by Soultime:
I would say that whatever decision you make will have positive results as long as you don't act out of fear.

well said

and as someone else said before, choose your adventure! both will have wonderful results. Or you could tell her travel is something that you simply need to do, she may be quite accepting. Id say it is HER choice on whether or not it is "right" to make her wait. She will wait, or she wont. Once you know her feelings on the matter, then you might have to make a decision.