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sometimes a good haircut or a purging of old clothes and a spree of replacement shopping or even a giant stack of dvds and some cookie dough just doesn't cut it.

where was the place that you finally got over a broken heart or you were able to move on from the past?

perhaps it was on a religious quest, or perhaps it just happened by the grace of the world, but where?

(i have been awaiting that ephiphany, and recently had to listen with jealousy as a friend told in great detail her experience on a cliff at crater lake.)

I think you don't necessarily have to go somewhere, in my experience the only thing that makes it better is time. However if you have the money, you may want to go somewhere you have always wanted to go, somewhere with a lot of natural beauty where you can escape all of our societal ties and perhaps find some solitude. It would also help to get away from your former lover, bumping into them esp. if there are residual bad feelings is definitely not a good thing.

Many people wonder if they should do the rebound thing or not, I did not, but let me tell you it will hurt when you see your ex with someone else, in the beginning stages at least, eventually, hopefully you become friends. When I am feeling emotionally frustrated, it helps to go somewhere where none knows you and you can start fresh. Of course it is hard, but the hardship is welcome in a sort of way, because you chose to do this.

Hope that helps, and makes some sense

Immersing yourself in a completely foreign culture for a while will help, but don't veer so far off the beaten path that there are no other travellers around as too much loneliness is a bad thing. At least initially.

Of course, that is running away from your problems, but after a trip you might find it easier to deal with your emotions. It's that time thing again.

I couldn't give you any tips of exactly where to go. It depends on your preference. The desert and mountains are great spiritual places. Maybe you like hiking, or would rather embark on an epic overland journey...

The place that where I finally just moved on was in Laos. Being on the road helped but you have to be careful as too much lonliness and access to cheap alocohol and drugs can be dangerous. Time is the best healer...

Sometimes talking to strangers while telling "your story" helps...again and again you speak about a subject and finally it just becomes one more chapter in the story of your life. Strangers can act as your therapists as their honesty helps..you have nothing to loose..you don't see these people again so you are honest and so are they.

Don't go to Paris. It is the most romantic city and you will cry. Everything--pastries, water, French language--seems romantic to me. I cried a lot there.

I also had a weird encounter with some French dude who started trying to give me money and drag me away; he knew no English and I know no French. Not sure what it was about; he may have thought I was a prostitute in my knee length skirt or something?

That freaked me out and I stopped crying...and started eating!

Go to Taipei. You will spend all your time wandering around all the fantastic markets, eating the most amazing food, and visiting the most colorful temples(not wabi-sabi austere like in Japan), and meeting FRIENDLY locals who seem happy to see you. It`s cheap, too, and safe....love those Asian metropolises!!!!

I think any sort of adventure in general is good for mending a broken heart. How do I put this? The heart mends itself over time and occupying yourself helps take your mind off the long and painful process.

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Originally posted by Gaelic Funk Monkey:
I think any sort of adventure in general is good for mending a broken heart. How do I put this? The heart mends itself over time and occupying yourself helps take your mind off the long and painful process.

Very nicely written.

ADQ

go to yr mom's house (if she is like mine). mine baked me cupcakes and told my grandmothers to be nice to me and not mention his name. awww.