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I can't afford a gap "year" at the moment, but I am definitely putting together a gap summer. Does that count? I read a lot of articles about how the best way to stay young as you grow old is to really work your brain, & put it thru it's thinking paces. Soooo...I'm going to learn another language. It's off to Buenos Aires to immerse myself in Spanish. I think I'll throw in some tango lessons, and maybe a weekend of skiing.

It definitely felt weird to pull the trigger on it (as now, all those practical things go thru your head that you never had dealt with before---making sure my mortage payments are in, someone to watch the house, check the mail, mow the grass, blah, blah, blah...). And, I'm finding out that I may be a little older than the 20's crowd that's taking the immersion class w/ me, but oh well....

As I read everyones input I get a huge charge knowing that when I take off on my RTW trip I will not just be running into 20 yr. olds in budget places. I just turned 48 and my mid life fall out is the planning of my RTW trip with my kids. We will be leaving before I turn 49, and my kids will be 16, 13, 12 when we leave. I have been quietly stashing away $ for over 10 years(little bits at a time) and I believe that my time has come to implement one of my biggest dreams. I live in Microsoft land (although we are not employeed by Microsoft), and I do not want my children growing up thinking that everyone in the world has a sport court in their back yard. I also have a dear friend that is 44yrs. old and dying of cancer as I write this note. She has no more than 2 weeks left and will leave behind 3 children under the age of 10 and a husband who travels for work 85% of the time to take care of them. Between exposing my children to other cultures and parts of the world and thinking about my dying friend, I truely know that a well lived life is more important than just a long life. If traveling to other parts of the world is your passion or just a fleeting moment of couriosity then as they say in Nike land, JUST DO IT! It does not have to be a full blown RTW trip if that would cause too much stress and anxiety, but for me planning our RTW trip is my medicine for those tough days at work. My children use it to help them through exam weeks as well. I will be traveling for 6 months, pulling my children from school......instead of calling this our gap year we are calling it our transition 1/2 year. When we return I will most likely get back into the engineering profession that I left behind 12 years ago after the birth of my 2nd child. I miss the techo-geek stuff and I need to make some $$$ for college tuitions and our/my next adventure.

So all of you mid-40s..........get off the couch and go and have one hell of a time. After all, just think what an adventure trip would do for your wisdom quota.

Mom, you go girl!
I agree with everything you said 110%. When my close friend died suddenly at age 25 it shook my world. From that moment on, I "got it" and took my first trip overseas. Eventually that led to a RTW, but I'm currently back at home settled in and raising a family. The more comfortable I become in this environment, the more I crave long term travel. I am 37, but hoping to get our family on the road for a big trip or international relocation at 40. I can't think of a better gift to give a child, the world!

I sold my house and quit my job and travelled the country for 1 year and a half. I had raised my kid, 18 and off to college, tired of being an Electrician, tired of all the new rules, tired of stop lights and traffic.

I started over in Montana, moved from Ohio, found what I was looking for out here.

I'm back at being an Electrician, an occupation I truly love. Found a great girl, a wonderful small town and plan on never leaving. Note: The nearest stop light is an hours drive away!

Pitfalls? The feeling of, what the hell am I doing? I felt that way, while trying to fall asleep in a friends sailboat. In New Orliens. I remember it and that feeling.

It lasted about 3-4 minuates.....LOL I told myself to stop thinking that way, what the hell was I doing? Living for ME for the first time, scared? Yeah, But I never looked back.

Life does start at 40, and just keeps getting better!

I'm 43, look 36, feel 26, act 12.

Take the time off, go have fun.

It will do wonders for ya.

AMS

This is a very inspiring thread! So glad I found it. I'm 47 and have 3 kids ages 20, 17, and 14. Iv'e been researching a back pack trip through much of
Europe for several months now. I was hoping to do it this summer but the timing of my house sale and moving across the country plus the eye-popping expensiveness (is that a word?)of Western Europe has put my plan on hold. I would love to take my 2 kids out of school for a year like mom is doing but the timing is just not right...nor would they ever go for it! You all are an inspiration though. You've shown me that it can be done. I'm going to keep plugging along with my research and maybe I can swing it next summer. Keep on truckin and thanks for keeping my hopes alive...

I think it's great when older people get out and explore the world. That's what my parents want to do.

I'm closing in on 40 sooner than I might realize, and I've really been toying with the idea of taking an extended time off and traveling. It's something I've put off for a number of years in order to do the good citizen routine in corporate land. I don't have any regrets, but I definitely want to push out and go before too much longer!

I turned 45 on the road in Australia - both my partner and I have chucked in good paying jobs in IT. When we need money again we will need to work but I hope never to work in the IT corporate wasteland again!

Well, I'm well into my little spanish immersion experience, and I am absolutely, positively glad I'm doing this. It has it's "growth" moments to be sure. I really like the exercise my brain is getting in having to rethink things....the same kind of feeling your body gets after one of those workouts that practically wears you out but feels awesome. I find myself even giving occasional thought to what it would take to move here....

When I was 44, in 2000, my wife and I quit our jobs, put some of our stuff in storage, rented our house fully furnished, took our 9 year old out of school and took a year off to travel the world. We had many concerns before we left and they all proved unfounded for us. We had the best year of our lives BY FAR! The only challenge was the 'retox' upon returning home.

Our friends and family, for the most part, thought we were crazy but now we are their heros and they tell everyone about us; the family that dared to do this.

Go For It!

Well Skyehiker, I'm so glad to hear you followed thru on your plans and seem well-adjusted to the current situation. I don't think it matters whether it's a gap 'year' or 'summer' or whatever. It's being able to get outside yourself...away from your comfort zone, and be willing to take the 'dare' from yourself to do the traveling. I'm heading off to what I've considered my first solo; but just realized that I soloed last winter for 4 months (tho' not abroad) and did just fine (thank you very much)...knew no one, went everywhere...just didn't think of it as 'travel' since it was in U.S. (sorta).
Whatever our age, travel is enlightening, frees us from our past, focuses us on our present, and opens our future.
To all of us who dream, plan, do, or simply hope to do - that's what counts...we look forward, not back.

"Looking forward"...that's the key.
Am def. glad I did it. And, am already looking at next summer....would possibly do it all over again, only stay the whole summer, or who knows. Might not plan it out too much yet, but see what the fall brings.

It's funny how doing this sort of thing in some ways feeds that hunger, yet in many others, only makes you want to to do it more!

I wonder what became of Pelke, the OP on this thread...he was hoping for July '06 or '07.....

'where have all the flowers gone?' What's happened to those who posted on this thread? What's happened in your lives, where are you in your plans/dreams? Are you out there doing the trip, still planning it, budgeting? What???

Drop back in and update the thread...and welcome to new 'gap' period posters to elaborate your plans/dreams/wishes. This is the place!

We took a year off 6 years ago when I was aged 42 and travelled rtw with my wife and three kids (then 13/11/8)

Strange thing - I expected problems getting the kids reestablished, but they were back into routine within a few weeks of school starting. The hardest thing on our return was actually finding my feet again and getting my nose back to the grindstone. I'm not sure if it is a spirit of wanderlust or if I have become less materialistic than I used to be.

Now retired (age 58), I had a series of jobs that provided many opportunities for international travel. In 1998 at the age of 48 I was doing a boring consulting job that required commuting to Boston every week in mid-winter. After 6 months I had had enough and booked a 6-week trekking trip to Tibet.

Since then I've taken two RTW trips using FF miles, both times returning to Nepal for trekking.

I didn't have to sell the house, and did leave the wife and kids behind. However, I think the time off travelling is beneficial to all of us.

Hell, I'm just looking to take a gap week...

I'm busy working on a Masters in Education and those school breaks don't coincide with my work breaks (nice thing about teaching - you get "forced" vacations).

Hence, this December I want to make a power trip to Oz over Christmas when I don't have anything. It will only be for a week so I want to cram as much in as I can. I will be 47 and have very little traveling experience. I really want to see Oz (OK, I'm obsessed), though, and have dreams of working there after I retire (I can take early retirement a year from October). Or not...I know the rules are changing regarding work visas and age...

We never know when our time will be up. Ten years ago I didn't think I would make 40 and now I'm so looking forward to 50 because of all the crap I've dealt with in my 40's. The journey to recovery begins with a single step and life goes on. My bro passed away almost 2 years ago at the age of 44. Something like that is very humbling.

Anyway, if anyone has any tips on what I can do in 5 days and how I can do it cheaply, let me know. I assume backpacking means exactly that, except not in the woods as I'm more accustomed to.

Thanks, Kelly

I'm a veritble youngster sneaking in under the radar on this thread but in total agreement with all those that are about too, or have already welcomed a spot of chaos theory and abandonmnet into their stable lives.

I'm nearly 37 and just about to start my 2nd Gap Year in my thirties. This travelling thing gets adictive, Gap Years should come with a world health warning, "warning, what your about to do is seriously good for your health and happiness".

Something tells me this isn't going to be my last either !?!

Hi,

I have loved reading this post! I am pushing towards 40 and am about to start our 9 month rtw trip with my 2 kids (14/12). The hardest bit for me was making the decision to go but once that was done nothing has felt more right! I hope the kids learn so much about the world and we all learn about each other but am soooo excited as I am about to live my dream!

My husband and I took a year off (2006-07) just to travel the US. I was 38 and he was 44. One day it struck me that I could either do it or die wanting to do it. My office gave me a one year leave and he's still trying to figure out what he want to do when he "grows up". We leased our house, furniture and all (things we loved we gave to friends and relatives to store for us). The year was the most amazing experience for us. We will never be the same which means we now spend out time trying to figure out how was can be full time travelers.
Never put off your dreams because none of us knows when our last day will be.

In the words of Ken Kesey, "Nothing lasts."

Not good times, not bad. Most of all, not us.

Better get out there and see it while we can.

CAJ
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