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Would you get pissed like "why are they in OUR club" or "why are you in here if you're not gay"?? Like if a woman came up to me and we started chatting, would I piss alot of people off if at the end of the conversion, Im like "Oh, Im not gay".

Straight people in gay places, is happening more and more in the UK.

It does tend to be more straight women though. They come on their hen nights (because gay men are so much fun).

You tend not to see too many straight guys out, and when you do, you tend to see them hung on to their girlfriends, periodically needing to kiss them to remind everyone that they are straight.

I don't like this last part, not mind the first part too much.

I do think that if you went back ten years, and went to a gay bar, at least you knew that everyone in their was gay, and if you didn't pull it was because they didn't like you, not because they weren't gay.

I go to gay bars because I have gay friends, and if a "mixed set" wants to go out and party, the straight people get treated much better at gay bars than the gay peole do at straight bars, at least in Texas.

I don't seem to have much awkwardness around women chatting me up. Gay or straight, I think it's pretty clear when someone is looking vs. when they are just hanging out with friends. But if someone seems to really be making a play for me, I'll let them know pretty early on that I'm not interested in hooking up so as not to waste their time.

I've never had anyone be unpleasant to me about that...except for one straight guy. I think he was lost, or got kicked of the bar across the street for being an asshole.

La

Its a difficult situation, assuming we are talking about straight guys. On the one hand, gays can appreciate that a straight guy feels comfortable enough to hang out in a club full of gay guys all night, and on the other hand, these clubs are the few places where we can go and be only with one another, without having to screen through the sexuality of the crowd.

In my group of gay friends, we have one straight guy who tags along because his straight friends are potheads and never go out. We love having him come along, but if each "group" had a straight guy with them, it would be annoying always doubting what everybody's sexuality is in a gay bar.

Girls are exempt... if they want to party, no problem.

I think its so cool when a straight guy has gay friends, most men are too insecure. But yeah, I know what you mean about having to 'screen' people...if you wanted to do that you'd goto a regular club. heh

I def wanna do a bangin gay spot in London. If you know of any, pm me. I have a dutch friend who knows london pretty well, Ill ask him too.

I don't mind that much if heterosexuals are in LGBT clubs(of course, pleae keep an open mind and people MAY hit on you and take friendliness for flirting!)

...however, I DO mind when heterosexuals come to a gay club and are all over each other. Like my friend Andrew says, "You have almost the whole world to act like that. Not here, please!"

And straight men, please, if you come to a gay club, you better be dancing along with the Madonna!

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Originally posted by cherie:
...however, I DO mind when heterosexuals come to a gay club and are all over each other. Like my friend Andrew says, "You have almost the whole world to act like that. Not here, please!"

im not sure if that should really bother someone. assuming it is a club where gay guys (or gals) are "getting it on", it shouldn't be restricted to the homosexual crowd. although if they are doing it only to say "f*ck off, im straight", then that would be obnoxious.

Interestingly enough I was out with a straight freind of mine in Amsterdam last weekend and she ended up getting relentlessly hit on in a gay bar... by a straight man.

I have no problem with straight guys being in a gay bar. They'll have to deel with getting hit on by other guys, but, I think it would be clear that they weren't really interested in men that way after you talked to them for a while.

I'm bisexual and I often run into this problem being married to a straight man and having many gay friends. We take turns sometimes we hang out a gay club, sometimes straight. Most people are usually accepting if someone in our group isn't gay/bi/TSTV etc. I personally feel that if a straight person is coming to a gay club they're accepting of the gay/lesbian lifestyle,
so they should be accepted too.