I am not talking about the just out of college moving back with your parents while you figure out your next steps. I am talking about the deciding you want to go somewhere, and disrupting your parents' lives again after you've already moved out kind.
Exceptions to every rule, of course, but things like, "Move back in with your parents, use your parent's phone, use your work phone" just strike me as advantageous rather than responsible.
Well, it's doubtful I'll ever have kids, but if I do, I'll be one hard-ass, mean parent. ;-) I wouldn't allow my kids to move back in with me, just because they wanted to save up for a trip. Once my kid was an adult, and moved out initially, they should be able to support themselves, and become creative in realizing their dreams, without depending on me for free rent/food/etc.
And as for me, I never considered moving in with the parents an option. But, you know, I'm not here to start up an ethical debate!
And seriously, I'm not really bashing you guys, as it's quite true, it's becoming quite common for people to live with their parents for a while once they are out of college, etc. I just question the PARENTS. Obviously as a child, if your parents are totally supportive of you moving back in with them, you're just taking advantage of their willingness, so apparently it's win-win???
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But how I save money? Easy. I don't spend more than what I make. I put money into savings. I write down every single item that I spend money on (this includes a $1.50 cup of hot chocolate), so I get a good idea of what I spend, what I can cut back on, and take things month by month. I budget. I question nearly every non-essential that I purchase, I rarely eat out, I don't own a cell phone, and I bring lunch to work every single day. That's more of a continous lifestyle for me, though - always has been. But I don't completely purge all of the fun out of my life -- I still belong to a gym (regular and climbing), I see a movie every now and then, and meet up with friends for coffee. Oh, and I almost never go to the bars, so suppose that saves me a lot.
Posts: 1549 | Location: ...now in the burbs of MSP, Minnesota | Registered: 14 July 2004
originally posted by Eowyn218 Well, it's doubtful I'll ever have kids, but if I do, I'll be one hard-ass, mean parent. ;-) I wouldn't allow my kids to move back in with me,
I left home at an early age but two of my brothers still live at my mothers. One of them with two kids. I couldn't wait to get out of the house. I stay with my mother once a year for one week sometimes every other year. But saving for a trip can be done without giving up your life as annie says. What you need is a balanced life. I don't go to movies because I haven't seenone I wanted to go to and when those "great" movies come out on DVD and I do see them I am usually not disappointed because I expected them to suck in the first place case in point Borat.
But I eat out with friends and go to the park. I enjoy the opera and plays when they come up. But I don't buy expensive clothing and buy books at a used book store because I am never in a hurry to read the latest. Just be prudent and save moderately and never touch the savings.
__________________________ I travel not to go anywhere, but to go. I travel for travel's sake. The great affair is to move. ~Robert Louis Stevenson
Not specifically anyone in this thread, but there was another thread about parents and "things my mom doesn't know", it seems like a lot of people here have issues with their parents, so there's a totally different perspective for them, like "when I was 18 I got the hell out of there and never looked back" than someone like me who has a great relationship with their parents and would have no problem moving back in with them, provided they were ok with it (it's not an issue with me at this point).
Nice! I too bike to work- it is 15 miles each way. I have done that for 4 years-thru some brutal winters and in some intense rain storms. Its all good! I am ready to sell my car. Its a 2002 Toyota GTS loaded with every option- and it only has 19,000 miles on it. I heard these are collector cars now too. Dried beans are a great way to save money! I have a pressure cooker- awesome for bean soup or chili and awesome way to cut down on your electric/gas bill. Dried chickpeas are great for chickpea soup or fresh hummus. You are a vegan- I definately am not. Whole chickens are a great value. And I think the tough cuts meat are the tastiest- flank, onglet, skirt. Those are some ways I save money!
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Posts: 225 | Location: Connecticut USA | Registered: 28 March 2007
just get a highly paid career, where you can take breaks from time to time..
I'm thinking of going 'contracting', as I'd get a 20%-30% premium, and being an accountant at least contractors or agency staff get paid by the hour, The amount of overtime I did in my last job, if i'd been agency I'd have doubled my money some months..
other than that, cutting back on alcohol, and meals out, and expensive clothes all help
Posts: 242 | Location: Yorkshire, UK | Registered: 24 March 2007
My income tax deductions are stated as a "Single 0" with an extra $25 taken from each check. Doing it that way ensures a large refund each year. When the check came this year, I immediately bought and paid for a ticket for my next vacation.
Posts: 16192 | Location: Richmond-by-the-sea, California | Registered: 02 January 2001
It's actually not such a good idea to get money back from Uncle Sam. It's better to owe taxes. When you get money back its like lending money to the gov't with no interest for the year. If you owe it's like barrowing money with no interest for the year. So you make out best if you just owe a bit.
And then I would have to pay with money that I don't have. If I was in any way solvent, I wouldn't have to resort to this humiliating method of saving.
Posts: 16192 | Location: Richmond-by-the-sea, California | Registered: 02 January 2001
I too am trying t save money, but I wouldn't move back in with my parents as i think we would get on each other's nereves plus the restrictins that would be imposed of me like the giving up of my double bed, what programmes I can watch etc as I wouldn't be allowed the tv in my room etc
Am I mad, in a coma; or back in time?
Posts: 6 | Location: Wiltshire, UK | Registered: 10 May 2007
Obviously as a child, if your parents are totally supportive of you moving back in with them, you're just taking advantage of their willingness, so apparently it's win-win???
