Would you get pissed like "why are they in OUR club" or "why are you in here if you're not gay"?? Like if a woman came up to me and we started chatting, would I piss alot of people off if at the end of the conversion, Im like "Oh, Im not gay".

Straight people in gay places, is happening more and more in the UK.

It does tend to be more straight women though. They come on their hen nights (because gay men are so much fun).

You tend not to see too many straight guys out, and when you do, you tend to see them hung on to their girlfriends, periodically needing to kiss them to remind everyone that they are straight.

I don't like this last part, not mind the first part too much.

I do think that if you went back ten years, and went to a gay bar, at least you knew that everyone in their was gay, and if you didn't pull it was because they didn't like you, not because they weren't gay.

I go to gay bars because I have gay friends, and if a "mixed set" wants to go out and party, the straight people get treated much better at gay bars than the gay peole do at straight bars, at least in Texas.

I don't seem to have much awkwardness around women chatting me up. Gay or straight, I think it's pretty clear when someone is looking vs. when they are just hanging out with friends. But if someone seems to really be making a play for me, I'll let them know pretty early on that I'm not interested in hooking up so as not to waste their time.

I've never had anyone be unpleasant to me about that...except for one straight guy. I think he was lost, or got kicked of the bar across the street for being an asshole.

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Its a difficult situation, assuming we are talking about straight guys. On the one hand, gays can appreciate that a straight guy feels comfortable enough to hang out in a club full of gay guys all night, and on the other hand, these clubs are the few places where we can go and be only with one another, without having to screen through the sexuality of the crowd.

In my group of gay friends, we have one straight guy who tags along because his straight friends are potheads and never go out. We love having him come along, but if each "group" had a straight guy with them, it would be annoying always doubting what everybody's sexuality is in a gay bar.

Girls are exempt... if they want to party, no problem.

I think its so cool when a straight guy has gay friends, most men are too insecure. But yeah, I know what you mean about having to 'screen' people...if you wanted to do that you'd goto a regular club. heh

I def wanna do a bangin gay spot in London. If you know of any, pm me. I have a dutch friend who knows london pretty well, Ill ask him too.

I don't mind that much if heterosexuals are in LGBT clubs(of course, pleae keep an open mind and people MAY hit on you and take friendliness for flirting!)

...however, I DO mind when heterosexuals come to a gay club and are all over each other. Like my friend Andrew says, "You have almost the whole world to act like that. Not here, please!"

And straight men, please, if you come to a gay club, you better be dancing along with the Madonna!

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Originally posted by cherie:
...however, I DO mind when heterosexuals come to a gay club and are all over each other. Like my friend Andrew says, "You have almost the whole world to act like that. Not here, please!"

im not sure if that should really bother someone. assuming it is a club where gay guys (or gals) are "getting it on", it shouldn't be restricted to the homosexual crowd. although if they are doing it only to say "f*ck off, im straight", then that would be obnoxious.

Interestingly enough I was out with a straight freind of mine in Amsterdam last weekend and she ended up getting relentlessly hit on in a gay bar... by a straight man.

I have no problem with straight guys being in a gay bar. They'll have to deel with getting hit on by other guys, but, I think it would be clear that they weren't really interested in men that way after you talked to them for a while.

I'm bisexual and I often run into this problem being married to a straight man and having many gay friends. We take turns sometimes we hang out a gay club, sometimes straight. Most people are usually accepting if someone in our group isn't gay/bi/TSTV etc. I personally feel that if a straight person is coming to a gay club they're accepting of the gay/lesbian lifestyle,
so they should be accepted too.

I personally think it's great to see straight guys out at gay bars. My roommate is straight and he comes out to the gay bars with me sometimes and always has a lot of fun. The straight men who shouldn't be there are the ones who are only there because their girlfriends dragged them in, not because they want to have fun. It's those ones who are going to be insecure and all over their girlfriend in order to broadcast their heterosexuality and who are going to get offended if they get hit on. Ladies, if your boyfriend is uncomfortable in a gay bar, leave him home, get all your girlfriends together and come have a girl's night out with us. It will be a much more comfortable situation for everyone. Straight men, you are more than welcome in a gay bar but if some guy comes up and hits on you, take it as a compliment, tell him you're straight, and leave it at that. 99% of gay men will respect that and not bother you anymore. And to all the other gay men out there, if ANYONE, straight or gay, is not interested in your advances, but you decide to continue pushing, you're not hip or cool or confident. You're an annoying, disrespectful, arrogant prick and you deserve whatever you've got coming. It's a simple matter of respect. Just my two cents.

I'm not sure why this would even matter. Isn't going out about having a good time? And if a straight guy or girl goes to a gay/bi club, and obviously is open minded, as shown by their presence at the club, you should shun them for being there? I don't know, sounds paranoid and exclusionist. I've been hit on by straight men in gay clubs and lesbian women in straight clubs. I didn't mind in either situation. It's just about having a good time.

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I do get slightly irritated when a lesbian/gay bar is over run with straight people. It really has little to do with them being straight and more to do with the fact that as a community...gays and lesbians have very few places that can feel like safe environments. When I go to straight bars I do not hit on other women but unfortunately I get hit on by straight men at the lesbian bars. It is irritating to say the least and extremely disrespectful in my opinion. I am a femme girl and it is assumed that because I am not butch looking that I am straight and would welcome such advances. I go to lesbian bars because I don't want to be approached by men and it no longer feels safe to me when it happens. That said...I understand that straight people come in with their gay friends and that is different. It is just when a group of straight people come in to gawk or a couple comes in to to find a 3rd that is irritating. Unfortunately from my experience...a large majority of straight people (at least here in the bible belt) view our community as being devient and once again makes a once safe environment feel threatening. That is my 2 cents and I will keep the other 98 cents to myself.

Miss Logic, let me get this straight. You go to a straight bar, and being an attractive woman, you get upset when traditionally trained hetero men approach you, doing what comes naturally? Are they supposed to stop, and say to themselves:

"Hey, she could be Lesbian. Maybe I ought to ignore her and all attractive women, just in case!"

If it makes you uncomfortable, fine. Just don't blame the men for being hetero men, instead of non-interested gay men.

Now, when men go into a Gay bar, and its usually pretty obvious when they are, and they start looking for a bi-sexual swinger, well, I don't mind at all if someone kicks them in the balls.

Still, if you don't mind a woman trying to hit on you in a gay bar, why condemn hetero men for doing what comes naturally to THEM? Just say no, and call it a day.

Reminds me of the women that wear really low cut dresses with large bosums, then complain that all men do is look at their assets. If you don't want the play, don't enter the game.

I think you misread. This is what I said "When I go to straight bars I do not hit on other women but unfortunately I get hit on by straight men at the lesbian bars."

And as I stated it is about creating a safe environment in which to be myself. Why would a straight man hit on a woman in a lesbian bar? He thinks he can "change" her...trust me I have had it happen more times then I can count. It is offensive. That would be like a gay man approaching a straight man in a straight club telling him "you just haven't met the right man yet". He would get his ass beat. If I get hit on in a straight club by a man I am not offended because I am in a straight club and it is assumed I am straight. But it usually takes about 17 "no I am gay" "no I am not bi...I am gay" "no really...I am a lesbian" before they go away. I don't know how many times you have been hit on by men...but my experience is that "no" just doesn't seem to work (straight bars or gay bars). Unfortunately.

Side note: Have you ever had to shop for clothes that fit a double D breast size with a size 8 waist and still be trendy and attractive. It is damn difficult and many times women can't help what shows because there is so much there. Your remark is a bit insensitive and definitely shows what mind set you are coming from.