Travel and love relationships (is it time to go home?)
Things were great, awesome, exciting. I met some new friends, most of them being locals, travellers and expats settled in cities for a while. And I ended up staying longer in places thinking of just going with the flow, leaving my rough plan aside. A first love relationship emerged. We had awesome times, but it wasn't the right person for me and I ended up suffering a lot, during and after the relationship. Then I got over it and went on travelling, till the next city... and the same thing happened, again. New friends, new love relationship, and again, more suffering...
And here I am now, still in the aftermath of that second relationship. I have a hard time to pick up with travelling. Nothing interests me, lots of things from my rough plan I haven't seen but I lack energy to go on. Meeting new people seems difficult, while generally this isn't an issue for me. What should I do?
I feel like being lost in my travels and it doesn't make a lot of sense anymore. I try to think positive, smile, do some physical activities, but I end up falling in that same shitty mood over and over again.
This sounds like the typical break-up talk and it is typical break up talk. But being far away from home makes it harder and I need an outlet right now.
How long are you staying in a given place? (Probably awhile if it's long enough to have a relationship?)
What to do about it? That's my question now. Should I go on and maybe find back that travel vibe while moving? I've been in that same country for quite a while and I think that maybe changing of country might be a wise option. New landscapes, different mentalities...
One thing I realized is that love relationships and travelling are not the way to go, not for me at least. In my future travels I will avoid to get involved on that level as it turns out to not turn out well in the end. People have to leave, move on, are themselves afraid to get involved because of the particular situation and so on.
dimz wrote:One thing I realized is that love relationships and travelling are not the way to go, not for me at least. In my future travels I will avoid to get involved on that level as it turns out to not turn out well in the end. People have to leave, move on, are themselves afraid to get involved because of the particular situation and so on.
Ah yeah I've been there- not like I mind the occasional travel romance but most initial chemistry in a relationship depends on whether someone's right for you at the time and those tend to be quite different on the road. Plus the whole meeting someone nice only to learn you'll be inhabiting different continents kind of sucks too. (Not knocking potential for them to bloom into something more, but I think it's even less likely than normal relationships.)
Three months in a city is definitely a bit and gets into expat territory- you're also in the point IMO in an expat's life where the new glamor of living somewhere dies down a little and you get homesick. So unless you want to put down roots where you are and get through adjusting proper it might be worth your while to give traveling at a quicker pace a shot- I mean if it sucks you can always go home right?- maybe aim for someplace very different from your current locale so it'll hold your attention a bit more.
I slowed down the travelling a bit and have been on hold for 2 and a half weeks in a city now. I'm still in the aftermath of that second relationship but things are going better now and I slowly feel that I want to go back on the road again, might give it one or 2 more weeks before heading out of this country. I really learned a lot of those experiences and I hope it will serve me now and later on in my life.
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